His n’ Her



The His n’ Her pleasure features a dramatic bulb-like shape at the head which allows nerve endings to remain at their most sensitive, producing significantly more pleasure for him while the 68 ribs along the rubber dramatically enhances her pleasure.

Double Play



Double Play condoms are new members of the ‘Unlimited Edition’ from LifeStyles. A unique shape that is tailored for a man along with ultimate texture for a womans needs. The bottom is covered with 10 rows of studs while the head of the condom has 5 rows of ribs.

Mutual Pleasure



Mutual Pleasure condoms have two sections of ribs, 8 ribs at the top and 24 ribs at the bottom. The ribs along with hundreds of raised studs are sure to increase her pleasure but the condom is also wider at the top with a contoured shape to increase comfort and pleasure for him.

Crown Studded



This super thin Japanese condom offers a wider, more comfortable shape along with added strength and studs for her pleasure.

Her Sensation



Her Sensation condoms are designed specifically to enhance a womans pleasure with 30 rows of ribs specially positioned where it will make a difference for her. Her Sensation ribbed condoms have a silky smooth lubricant and a pleasant berry scent that enhances the intimacy unlike the latex smell of standard condoms.

Beyond Seven Studded



45 rows of textured dots, 1350 in all. Thin, strong and silky soft, these lightly lubricated condoms are made of a latex called Sheerlon, an advanced material so strong and durable, it can be made much thinner than an ordinary latex rubber condom. Beyond seven has a slightly narrower shape and a light blue tint and are said to produce the most sensitive condoms in the market.

High Sensation



Combine ultra thin latex with added texture for a one of a kind experience. Durex High Sensation features raised ribs throughout its entire length.

Vibra Ribbed



Covered from head to toe in vibrant ribs, the LifeStyles Vibra-Ribbed was the original ribbed condom designed to provide maximum sensation for a man and a woman.

Intense Sensation



These condoms are studded with texture for extreme pleasure. With hundreds of raised studs, Durex Intense Sensation are sure to add intense excitement and sensation.

Type E



This lubricated condom gives greater sensation and stimulation to both because the form fitting design has row upon row of textured ‘Sensi-Dots’ and ribs for extra sensation. Although 20% thinner than standard condoms, Kimono Type E far exceed both FDA and tougher international specifications for quality and reliability.

Shared



Trojan Shared Sensation has alternating rows of raised bumps and ridges for her and a flared design that’s roomy at the tip for him.

Pleasure Plus



The Pleasure Plus condom has a large, loose pouch of additional ribbed latex, positioned near the head and underside of the condom. During sex, the extra latex slides back and forth against the very sensitive underside of the penis. This is the key to the Pleasure Plus condoms. The moving latex restores the stimulation essential to sexual pleasure for both men and women!

Inspiral



The Inspiral condom creates a springy action unlike any other condom on the market. The Inspiral condom’s unique twisting shape creates stimulation in sensitive nerve endings actually making the condom feel thinner than it really is.

Twisted Pleasure



The Twisted Pleasure has a special twist at the closed end, to help stimulate both partners in their most sensitive areas. With it’s unique patented shape, the Twisted Pleasure is designed for mutual pleasure.

X-tra Pleasure



X-tra Pleasure with its new innovative design, features a dramatic bulb-like shape at the head which allows nerve endings to remain at their most sensitive, producing significantly more pleasure.

Supra



Trojan Supra condoms are made from a Medical-grade advanced material called Microsheer. Supra condoms are ultra thin, strong and invisibly clear. Compatible with both water based and oil based lubricants, Supra polyurethane condoms have no latex allergens, and they transmit body heat unlike latex.

Performax



The name says it all. Manufactured with a special climax control lubricant, Durex Performax condoms help prolong male sexual performance while maintaining sensation for both parties.

Her Pleasure



The perfect combination of the long bulb shaped head and the raised treads on the shaft were designed with the woman in mind. Trojan’s Her Pleasure has a loose fitting head and with all the extra latex moving around makes for extra stimulation for him as well as her. Trojan Her Pleasure condoms are lubricated and feature a reservoir tip for added security against breakage.

Microthin



Sheer strength, sheer pleasure, Kimono microthin condoms are 38% thinner and crafted to exacting standards of quality, these form fitting Kimono condoms have earned the super-thin crown.

Night Light



Your very own light sabers. Night Light glow in the dark condoms are manufactured to the same standards as typical condoms, and provide the same protection and safety as typical condoms. They’re just much more fun.

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Below are the 6 type of guys that exist in women’s eyes.

The Bad Ass

She feels sexiest when with a bad ass. He is usually masculine and pretty skillful in bed. However, he’s a born bad ass playboy. He’s known to be a cheating nincompoop. Emotional connection does not exist in this kind of relationship, so does respect. The point of addiction is only sex. She will try to break his wild ways but it is useless. When the time comes, she’ll leave. Normal fights won’t do it. Only if the breakup involves a lot of emotions.

Mr. Nice

David DeAngelo, the dating guru, calls this type of guy the wussy. A wuss is someone defined as weak and unmanly. He is be able to make her feel appreciated and establish the emotional connection but he’s boring. He’s not manly enough to neither make her feel sexy nor turned on about sex. This type of relationship may eventually lead to marriage. He’d be a good fit for a family but he may not be enough to complete her sexual fantasies.

The Emotionally Unavailable Guy

This type of guy is one of the closest that she may get to an ideal relationship. Not a wussy, not a cheating nincompoop. The muscles and good sex will fulfill the sexual part plus he is also a gentleman who makes her feel appreciated. However, he’s emotionally unavailable. There is no emotion, so she complains. One of the biggest complaints that women have. Everything is there, but shit, he’s not emotionally available. She will try her hardest to get him to open up which never happens. Women are built on emotions, they need it, which when the time comes she will leave.

The Gay

There are also other types of men around like her gay friend. He makes her feel sexy and he genuinely makes her feel appreciated. They share a lot in common, but shit, he’s gay. In the end it is still not enough.

The Secret Lover

The secretly mysterious lover may never be part of any of her plans, but shit, the sex is addictive. Maybe once in a blue moon when she feels bored with the daily routine that has been going on for her, she’ll arrange to see him for one thing and one thing only. The fulfilling sex. Upon satisfaction, she leaves with the hope of finding her complete man.

The Married Man

The 6th type is the married man. There’s a saying that the perfect guys are all married. It simple means an unavailable man has higher value. Only the type of women that wants what she can’t have, will go for it. The sex is crazy good, she feels super sexy, the emotional connection is there BUT he will NEVER leave his wife. Though she doesn’t feel special, it is difficult for her to leave. The reason lies in her low self esteem.

The above were examples of men in her life. As you can see, one or more of her needs are not being met in each example. And by looking at what is missing, you can conclude what she has to have. =)

Emotional Intimacy

Emotional intimacy depends primarily on trust, as well as the nature of the relationship and the culture in which it is observed. Women need to know that a man understands what she feels and is confident enough for her to share her emotions with him. This is the problem with men. Men tend to communicate intellectually and verbally in relationships. Women on the other hand, tend to relate on an emotional level.

Imagine this. You open the door to her room and see her crying. I’m pretty sure that most guys will do one of these 5.

• Ask her what’s wrong?
• Tell her to stop crying?
• Be afraid, imagine the worst?
• Get mad and demand that she stop making a scene?
• Get frustrated and stalk out?

Guess what? None of the above improves intimacy. Men usually do not want to ‘feel’ the problem. They just want to solve it. A better approach is to sit with her, hold her hand and ask, ‘Is there anything I can do?’ If she says no, accept that and let her know that you care and are there when she’s ready to talk. =)

Respect

Respect to women simply means

• Never, ever strike her no matter what the provocation.
• Respect all women as equal. Question sexism.
• Contribute equally to household chores.
• Don’t expect her to serve you like a king. Respect her by not expecting her to wash, dry, fold or iron your clothes.

Sexual Intimacy

She grew up in the social programming that it is feminine and proper to be sexually submissive, and that it is unacceptable to be sexually forward. By being sexually submissive, she can enjoy sexuality without being to blame for it. She can be ’slutty’ without being a ’slut’. Thus, she can be fully sexually expressive by simply following the lead of her man.

Therefore, in order for her to have a fulfilling sexual life, she is going to need a man who can lead her, such that she can experience those things that make her feel the way she has always wanted to feel. So she needs a man that she respects, because she will only follow the lead of a man that she takes seriously.

The Mystery Method
Put beautiful women under your spell

As we move towards a more complete web 2.0, more and more online dating sites are popping out of nowhere, giving big competitors like match.com and meetic a run for their money. Here are the pros and cons of online dating which everyone should know about. Also, if you haven’t, check out this list of 19 free online dating sites that I’ve written a while ago. You might wanna try submitting your profile to all of the 19 to increase your chances. =)

Pros

• All you need is a computer. Low on resources. Available day or night 24/7.
• Make advances with minimum conversation. New technologies such as sending a ’smile’ allows sending over a subtle hint to the person you admire. And if they like you, you’ll get a response.
• Continually improving algorithms and tests such as sorting functions, profiles matching and personality tests widens the possibility of finding that potential perfect date.
• Meet people all around the world. Build long distance friendships. Learn about the exciting things they do or food they eat. You’d be taken aback by the surprising world of travel.
• Meet when ready. Imagine having made a date this coming Saturday night and suddenly growing an ugly zit on the forehead on Friday night. Pimples? Bad hair days? All of these don’t matter when it’s online.
• Date parallely. When it comes to email and IM, you get to do it parallely. Respond to as many personals as you want. Chat with a few of your admirers at the same time.
• Save cash. You don’t have to go out on dates to know that the person is lacks what you’re looking for in the first place. When it’s online, you get to discover all his/her interests even before striking a conversation. Online dating allows you to compare yourself to another person before spending on movies, dinner and etc.
• Wear what you want. Chat in your pajamas. There’s no need to dress up. There’s low priority in first impressions. Chat comfortably in a low pressure environment.
• The easy part of online dating not only involves starting conversations but also ending one. If you’ve had enough of a weirdo, you can easily stop all associations with the person. It is much less messy, hurtful and embarrassing.
• Safer in most cases. Most online dating sites track complaints, monitor member’s behavior and deals swiftly with offenders. Imagine efficient club bouncers that throw rowdy people out of the club into the streets.

Cons

• Identities may be fake. As you go along, you’ll pick up the ability to differentiate but it is most risky for first timers. You gotta be careful.
• Some are photogenic, some are not. With the advancement in image enhancing softwares like Photoshop, you can make a tiger grow human hands. However, if you go by the saying of ‘do not judge a book by its cover’, then you should do fine.
• The ‘chemistry’ factor. You may seem like the perfect couple online but things may be different offline. You may only find out compatibility during the 1st ‘real, live’ encounter.

Online Dating Guide
Advantages and disadvantages of dating online

BookOfMatches



Book of Matches is a 100% free dating site that offers simple search features by gender and age. Book of Matches allow members to rate each other and ‘hot’ rated members are listed in the ‘hot’ section. Another feature worth mentioning is the ability to give testimonials. What the site needs is a better search system where members are able to further narrow down selections and a less confusing interface.

BreakfastDate



Main features of the site include

• Standard search features like searching by location, zip code, age, with photo, etc.
• Message boards to participate in.
• Real time chatting through multiple chat rooms by topics.
• Internal messaging system.
• Ability to send winks.
• Own a personal private list of friends and admired members.
• Ability to ban by appearing invisible to losers.
• Photo galleries.
• Events calendar, keeping track of dates like birthdays and anniversaries.

Pretty much what an online dating site should be.

ConnectingSingles



A user can select to search local or international profile listings. Standard features include an option for sending flowers, bookmarking, blocking and know who viewed you, a forum and blog postings. Navigation around the site is pretty ok.

Consumating



What began as a joke between friends about online dating has grown a lot since its simple, snarky roots. Ben Brown and Adam Mathes found Consumating in 2002. The social networking website uses tags as a way for members to interact with one another and an online popularity contest to rate each other besides contests for photos and texts.

Despite the bold slogan of ‘a new way to find people who don’t suck’, Consumating focuses on matching people with similar interests by using tags, location, gender and age. The thumbs up / thumbs down options on user profiles will determine the popularity ranks in terms of points. Thumbs up adds 2 points while thumbs down removes 1 point. Start conversations like how you do it in forums. Choose any topic you want, respond to any topic you want.

Every week, users get to participate in 2 hot contests.

• New every Monday is the ‘Question of the Week’.An user is allowed one random or serious answer for each question. Users get the ability to include pictures. Answers are ratable.
• New every Friday is a contest for users to upload a picture depicting the topic selected by Consumating’s owners. Usually it is a self portrait. Others are allowed to rate the pictures which contributes to an user’s overall popularity.

Limits are

• 10 new messaging contacts a month
• 5 uploaded pictures
• One discussion subject per user at a time

Consumating is also a big supporter of its members meeting in person, usually in large groups. These meetings, termed Consumeetings, are publicized on the website’s front page to help promote the various locations at which meetings occur.

Google Base Personals



Google Base is still in it’s Beta stage. The online database allows anyone to add almost any kind of content. Sounds a lot like a classified ads service, something like Craigslist.

Users enter personal detials such as gender, marital status, sexual orientation into profiles highly targeted towards dating. Additional details like a short description, location mapping and anonymous email are includable. Wanna know how to use Google to hook up with chics? Here’s Damien Mulley for you.

IamFreeTonight



Launched in the first half of 2007, IamFreeTonight offers a unique online tool for singles to meet, find and schedule dates in a fraction of a minute. Since then, over 2,000 dates have been posted by its members.

‘Date Now!’ is the feature that conveniently lets users mention when they’re actually free to go out on a date as well as the activities that they look forward to doing. Members get to select from activities for their dates such as concerts, dinner, or even a drink. After filling in the necessary info, users simply wait for responses and select the ones they’d like to go out with.

Simple and easy, in the sense that you get to go on dates without going through the hassle of exchanging messages and contacts. If you have an extra ticket for a game or concert, IamFreeTonight becomes helpful. Free, unique and different.

The Impersonals



The social networking site that does not play ‘popularity’ games. Everyone is included, popular or unpopular, geek or not geek. Easily create a profile, answer about 6 questions and that’s it. The limit for sending messages a day is 3. If you and another person mutually bookmark each other, you’ll see a ‘match’ logo pop up. The strength lies in simplicity and minimality. There are

• No lengthy questionaires.
• No complicated ranking systems.
• No exclusive referral system that restricts membership.

Just post a witty comment together with your profile and see what you’ll get.

JustSayHi



Still young, JustSayHi is fresh out of the oven with loads of new faces and fresh members. The site has the standard features of an online dating site like internal mailing system, match lists, who’s online, community boards and the ability to block users. The site received a lot of backlinks through advertising sites like PayPerPost and creamaid. If you’re North American, give it a try.

LifeKnot



Lifeknot maintains the personal intimacy found at online dating sites by connecting people through shared interests in common activities. Besides they cater for the general by also including singles. The social network results in focus on making friends and sharing passions in interesting activities. No pressure to date is involved, though you may be looking for one. LifeKnot is also accessible from the 182 million cellphones in the U.S., allowing members to find activity partners anywhere they go.

LoveHappens



Going by the motto of ‘Help your friends find love’, LoveHappens aims to help people all around the world find love through introductions and recommendations. Not only singles, but married people are also able to participate. That’s right, you can either be a looker or a helper or both. A ton of committed users join LoveHappens to introduce single friends and write stories for them.

MatchTag



Still in its Beta, MatchTag sets you up on a date even before the introduction. Users choose respondents that they like most from activities posted in their area by tags and carry out the activities. Features include adding buddies, rate user reliability, targeted invitations and admirer alerts.

MatchTag’s founder, Jeremy, told of how he wanted a service for meeting activity partners to have fun with. He also pictured meeting with local people while traveling and finding out happenings around town from locals instead of wandering by himself. And so, MatchTag was born.

MingleNow



Founded in 2006 by BlueLithium Labs and headquartered in San Francisco, promotes both online and offline gatherings. Allows users who are attracted to the same places to meet each other. From that, you can discover places in other cities and areas that attract the type of people and have the type of vibe you’re looking for.

The places focused are mainly bars, clubs and restaurants. For example, if you attended ‘$2 Tuesdays’ at Club NV, San Francisco recently, you can check out the profiles of people who like that venue and maybe approach a guy/lady that you were too shy to approach.

Easily import MySpace layouts to profiles and post widgets like YouTube. It also allows event calendars to be shared over other social networking sites and blogs. There is a cool photo sharing feature, ‘clink’, where members post up a picture of themselves drinking together. Earn VIP points by inviting friends to join and you can exchange for stuff like free drinks. The strong content focus on photos and media sharing will keep you browsing page after page. Gives you life beyond the keyboard.

MySpace



On 8th September 2006, a news site claimed MySpace to have 106 million accounts with an average growth rate of 230, 000 users per day. For those who realize, MySpace actually acts like an online dating site, unofficially. MySpace will pull through easily because

• they have the users. Over 100 million is no joke. The No.1 value to any dating site is people. Even if the site has the latest technology, a low network of daters won’t cut it.
• it has a relaxing environment. Of course, dating sites give the impression of ‘I want to date you’. MySpace on the other hand represents a low pressure environment through it’s motto of ‘a place for friends’, which may also double as a place to try your hand at dating.
• there is trust. I would be more likely to reply to a girl’s response if she were connected to one of my friends. I can not only see profiles, but also comments of friends. You’ll get to also read what people say about themselves, about others, an what others are saying about them.

Personals Wikia



The idea is to create a HUGE repository of personal profiles for others to search based on fields like language, religion, etc. At the time of viewing, Wikia Personals is still yet to be fully developed. Check out TechCrunch’s interview with Wikia CEO Gil Penchina.

PlentyOfFish



The free online dating service that has been frequently compared to paid dating services like Match.com, eHarmony and Meetic. Revenue is based solely on advertising alone and the company is only the size of 1, its founder Markus Frind. Plenty of Fish got plenty of exposure when Wall Street Journal wrote about it on 23rd May 2007.

The site uses individual member locations and message filters to determine viewable profile matches between people. There is a chat feature, rating system and forum discussion group. Like any other dating sites, members get to receive and send messages, match lists, edit profiles, upload images and add other members to their ‘favourite list’.

PodDater



A video oriented dating site. Users video profiles or shared across the site and they even allow them to be downloaded. The benefits include getting a better picture of the person cause there’s sound and movement, instead of meeting someone who might have looked different cause they used their previous 8 years’ photo in their profile. The free membership includes video voting rights, comments, tagging and syndicating search preferences. If you’ve found someone that you admire, you could just message them or admire them afar by subscribing to their RSS feed. Check out the contest section.

Prescription4Love



Special conditioned people’s dating website. And by special, I mean people with STD, obesity, HIV, deafness, etc. It really does help narrow down selections and members get to enjoy better matches. It allows a more open and warm environment for members to participate actively without worrying about their conditions. I believe with honesty in place, members will be able to progress further and faster than if they were to join other dating sites. You’d be more comfortable in most cases.

RateOrDate



A meta dating search engine which features include

• Single Events

Google Maps is utilized to further help users find single events in their areas.

• Online Dating

Narrow down your selections by religion, ethnicity, orientation, etc.

• User Reviews

Here, listen to what other users of dating services have to say. Pretty informative to help select a dating site that most closely fits your needs.

• Forums

Discussion boards for members to interact and support each other.

• Crowd Matches

Rate a pair of pictures, based on if you think they would make a good couple, or not.

At the time of viewing, the site looks a bit imbalanced in the sense that while some areas are focused on, other areas are left out in the corner.

VerbDate



goes by the slogan ‘Where People Speak Before They Meet’. Launched in March 2006, VerbDate focuses on voice to add stimulation to the online dating experience. Other cool features include Flickr photo albums, initiating Skype calls when mutual ‘winking’ happens. Lots and lots of interaction is involved. The good thing about Verbdate is the ability for users to speak safely.

Generally, men will make the move to answer personal ads and women put up and select from a long list of responses. The only way for men to be successful in attracting a girl is by examples. Earlier, I wrote a 3 part series, showcasing examples taken from Lorina about how one can answer online personals wrongly.

Today, I have gathered good examples for guys on how to answer online dating personals correctly. Try out some of the examples. Modify the names a bit and reuse them. See the difference. =)

1. If you will call me Mon Cher ( sp? ) I will do all your biddings. I used to be 7ft tall, however my evil twin brother, the disfollically challenged (hairy ) one, he chopped me off at the thighs, and thank god doctors were creative. Now, I am a very normal looking 5′8. Much to my parents dismay.

   My castle, unfortunately, due to downsizing it has become an apartment, but even the apartment is OLD. There are different Faucets for hot and cold water. Not different knobs, different Faucets. I have a thing for Christina Ricci… does that count?? I can Salsa, Merenge, and I am sure, that with a little help Tango and Waltz and Ballroom are just around the corner. Could you be that coach? Okay, so there is alot to say here, however, if you reply, I have a better wit and pictures I can send. Interested so far? I hope so because your picture was fantastic, Love the Boa.

   Until we chat….. Gregory

   Yes.. witty and charming at the same time.. that’s the way

2. I’m always interested in people who strike me as potentially wackier than myself, as I find that to be a rare situation…… hey, I never said I was modest… *lol*

   anyway, if you be interested in learning more about the exciting and adventurous nuances of me, then please…. order now! We’ll even throw in a free set of Ginsu Knives…. =)

   ok…. I’m too tired right now to even realize if I’m funny or not, so I’m gonna go get some sleep….. yes, it’s only midnight, but some of us has been slightly sleep deficient lately…..

   anyway, nice pseudo-chattin with ya…. hope to hear back from you sometime….. oh yeah – I’d be curious as to where exactly you’re located…. I just moved to (name of town located north of Philadelphia) about a month ago, and seeing as how you’re north of Philly….. well, it all starts adding up to something suspicious, if you ask me….. =P

   Take care, Jonn (yep, J-O-N-N… nobody ever gets it right….)

   by the way, I would attach a photo, but I’m too lazy to do so right now (plus it looks like I’d hafta come up with some kinda profile thingie… and I don’t wanna hafta deal with legions of adoring females…. *lol*)…. however, if ya email me back at my normal email address, I’ll be happy to oblige then…. okeley-doakeley?

   This guy shows appreciation towards her humor, doesn’t mention where he works, how tall he is, how old he is, or what he looks like. Sounds cool and calm and not desperate.

3. Hi.

   We should meet.

   I like long walks on the beach in the moonlight.

   All right, you probably didn’t think that was very funny.

   I stumbled across your ad and I see that we have quite a bit in common. Punk, flea markets, retro-tv, etc. Unfortunately, the one thing we don’t have in common is the city we live in. I’m in Rochester. Upstate New York. I know what you’re thinking… “Blecch! Upstate?!” Trust me, it’s not as bad as you might think. Or maybe it is. I don’t know. Well, if you’d care to respond… you know what to do. I’ve got an ad as well. I’ll send it along with this message. It should also have a photograph of me.

   Oh, I almost forgot. I’m in a punk band and I’m making our website. If you want to check it out for kicks: The Runs

   Adios

   Really good! See how this ad doesn’t sound desperate at all? Good stuff.

4. And so, you may ask yourself, who is this man, who felt compelled to respond to my ad? Well, I’m a SWM, 6′1″, 180 lbs, and 28 years old. Never been married, never had kids, don’t drink, don’t smoke. Don’t watch tv. I like to shoot pool (I’m very good), rollerblade (I suck) and go to school. (Working on a master’s degree, then a phd, in electrical engineering.) I work full time, as an engineer, at a sponge factory. (Really. I am not making this up. I mean, who would ever claim that?) I have a wonderfully fulfilling existance, with the exception of miss right, who seems to elude me at every step. (Perhaps she has some type of portable cloaking device, I’m not sure.) I am intelligent, goal-oriented, motivated, attractive (sorry, I don’t have a picture online, I will try to get one if you like.) and hillarious. I would like a chance to e-mail back and forth a bit, and see what you are like.

   Short, funny, to the point.

5. Alas, I’m not bald. And I don’t have sharks with lasers on their head.

   But I do have an evil empire which spans the globe, bringing terror to countless millions. Or I will soon… when I get off of my butt and build it. So.

   Your description definitely stands out from the countless “tired of the bar scene, looking for the right man” variety. If it conveys anything about your personality, then you’d probably get along well with my little group of weirdos. We’re post-college quasi-nerds, floundering in the intellectual wasteland of the Real World, facing the horrific realization that it’s much harder to meet interesting people when you aren’t in a place packed with bright, outgoing people around your age. So, if you are looking for other oddballs to goof around with (or help conquer the world), let me know.

   Lorina was an Austin Powers fan and so this email appealed to her taste. Though it may sound a bit off to others, talking about stuff related to what she likes will help build better first impressions.

6. HI there!! Lemme tell you right off that bat that you have no idea how sick I was of seeing all kinds of adds from all over the place that would say stuff like “Moonlight walks on the beach”, “Romantic Dinners by Candlelight” and all that kinda stuff.

   Don’t get me wrong though. I’m not saying that I’m not romantic either. Just like you said. Romantic stuff like that just happens. It’s not something that you can really plan on. I know that I’ve learned from my own experiances that different things are more romantic with different people. Shoot….I’ve had a good time just sitting with a girl on my patio looking out over the snowfall. That doesn’t mean that I’m going to want to do that with every girl that I date. Know what I mean? I think that you follow me.

   Anyhow….now that you got me rambling (just excited to find someone that thinks like me hehehehe). I’m a smart, realistic kinda guy. Most of the people that know me tell me that I tend to “grow” on them. I think they mean that in a good way, but it makes me feel like I’m some kinda fungus. If your looking for a very sexy, hot guy that’s going to tell you everything that you want to hear just so he can get you in bed….I’m not the guy your looking for. Don’t think that I’m ugly now either cause I’m not…trust me. I can be brutaly honest when I think it’s neccesary. That may sound like a bad thing, but it’s not. I just like to express my feelings about someone. You know that when I compliment you or tell you something that makes you feel good, it’s coming from the heart and I’m not just talking out my ass so that I could get in good with the girl.

   I’m very much a fun loving guy. I like to go out on the weekends to see bands at Brownies Plymouth or Reeds Blue Bell and places like that. If I’m not at a club on the weekends I usually go to a local bar or some other hang out spot to meet with all my buddies. I love shooting pool, playing/watching hockey and music.

   I in no way ever get all sexual when I talk to a girl unless it’s someone that I’ve known for a long time and we both know that it’s all in fun and aren’t going to get offended by it. I do LOVE a girl with a sense of humor. I have a good sense of humor myself and the more warped the better. My favorite comedy show is Uprights Citizen Brigade and favorite web page is www.theonion.com and www.doodie.com (have to go there if you never have) as well as www.redmeat.com

   I know that you fit my bill, I don’t know if I fit yours though, but that’s ok cause it’s good to see that there are girls out there like you. Vital Stats (hehehe): 25 male, 6′0″, 210lbs, black hair, brown eyes. Live near Norristown (thought not actually in it). I work for an executive office suite in Wayne, PA. Here is the only real difference that I’ve found between us thus far…I go to the gym and lift weights about 4 times a week and I like to eat relativly healthy, though I’m no health nut….trust me. I just like good food (seafood, veggies, etc)

   Don’t know what else to say right now. I really hope that you get this email and that I hear back from you.

   Long, but this is everything an ad response should be. Sounds realistic and intelligent at the same time.

Lorina’s Knowledge Base
Internet dating and personals ads examples

7. The Sex Deprived

• i dont think i would fit in too well; both you & the group sound like perfectly decent people- and im not sure if thats really what im looking for. i like a pretty sketchy scene, weird nightclubs, weirder people, all night parties, hard drugs, raves, mindless & casual sex (which seems to be mostly a myth, tho im still looking into it :) , petty criminals etc etc- your group sounds much more, ah, genteel (and saner, of course, i dont particulrly feel like trying to defend my tastes either).

  Petty criminals? Hard drugs? mindless sex? I think he wants to take drugs with shoplifters and screw them in the middle of nowhere.

• Hi I’m a 28 year old prof. white male, 5′10, 175 lbs, athletic build, 4th degree black belt Karate instructor, my last girlfriend wasn’t into sex as much as I was – so I need to have some endurance sex!! I love to 69 all ways.. to have a woman wrap her legs around my neck as I grab both my forearms and burry my head deep inside her wetness! as she jerks my fat (1 3/4″ – 2″ diameter) manhood in her mouth! sorry about the sex introduction, but it’s been a little while and I let my imagination run wild.. :) I hope you don’t think I’m a bid jerk for writing that.. if you want to pursue meeting, I can send a pic if you interested and we can take it from there. I live in NJ, but would travel to see you..

  LOL. I think he was once a lion tamer who enjoyed sticking his head in the lion’s mouth.

• I am a 36 y/o male…who would love to hear you scream my name while we make passionate love… watch the expression on your face while i orally satisfy every fantasy you ever imagined your pussy could handle…I would love to have the priveledge…of teaching you the joy of love making…if your curious please reply…

  LOL. Dude, take a trip down to Amsterdam.

8. The Low Self Esteemed

• Please forgive me for intruding, but I was just wondering if I could humbly request the honor and privilege of corresponding with you, if you wouldn’t at all mind and can find the time. If this is not possible, I honestly and completely understand. Thank you so much for your gracious and patient consideration.

  Sounding like this will only scare people away.

• Hello. Let me introduce myself. This is me in a nut shell. My name is Joe, I am 36, but look a lot younger, 1/4 Irish, 3/4 Italian, hazel eyes, light brown hair, 5′11″. I live in a house I own with my 2 cats and a dog. I have never been married and have no children, but do love kids. I am honest, sensitive, funny, down to earth and just a real nice guy. I enjoy a good conversation, long walks under the moonlight, dining out, movies, being pampered as well as doing the pampering. If I interest you let me know and I will give you my home number so we can have a real conversation. What do you have to lose? If you don’t like what you hear just hang up and no harm done. Lets talk.

  enjoy being pampered? take it slow dude. a good intro smeared.

9. Realistically Unrealistic

• hi who r u

  u r very very very very very nice

  iwont to be firend plz

  agian ur very nice

  u es very very very qute, Iwont to pinch ur cheecks

• You have a warm & most captivating smile. It rivals the sun in radiance…

  How do you feel about long talks about life?
  Saturday at a museum?
  International films?
  Cider & Potato skins?

  When good intros go bad. how is potato skin romantic?

10. Boringly Boring

• are still available to have fun and good time, they said if for good and worse so I take that, let me know your status.

  it’s like each word costs money to type

• would like very much to get to know you. Have pic so if you want to meet write back and lets get to know one another.

  ‘ok’ is the best reply.

Way Too Personal
Lorina’s adventures in the online dating scene

4. ‘Frightening but harmless’

• Hi my name is Alex 29/m/Los Angeles 6′1″ tall with short Brown hair and hazel green eyes. I will send you a pic of me if you would like me to. Call or E-mail me at xxx-xxx-xxxx ChemicalxFreak@___.com I would love to hear from you, your a very beautiful woman. It would be a great pleasure to take you out to dinner sometime in the future.

  ‘chemical freak’? Looks like I’m smarter. I have 2 emails that I alternate with, whole8inches@__.com and molester_24@___.com

• I would like to see how great of a graphic artist you are. You send me some pictures of you and I have to guess whether they are real or not. I will do the same as soon as I get a picture of me scanned. If interested, reply back. I am not really looking for a relationship, just some on-line fun for the time being.

  What? He’s gonna get 4 pictures of ‘the finger’ face up, down, left and right.

• Hi there ..seems like ur wait is over! ’cause I got curious on your profile. Well girls have found me a real macho! but I care a lot for intelligence and honesty! but you you’ve got to see yourself as opinions are benign! My vitals – Male, a Consultant, 26yrs – 6ft. Write to me at ________@usa.net with your proper mailid and we will carry on from there. But speed is important to me as is confidence, in the reply too! Take care and have a great day or night, depending on when u open this..

  ‘ur wait is over’. The pizza you ordered is here. ‘Yea bro, u got it rite~’

5. Childish Syndrome

• my sense of humor is rather warped so is you face id f*ck you but i wouldend know which end to stick it in

  No comments.

• With all due respect, Attractive, Intelligent, and Creative is a little on the unlikely side. Attractive people (I mean model attractive) usually don’t have personalities because they get everything based on their looks. In other words, don’t hold your breath on that one.

  Only losers bash another person to gain self esteem.

• How are you? Wow, you sure sound like you know what to write in theads and all. But I hope that your ad was not to sound like you have a bighead. Because it sure sounds like you are. But I am sure that you are not. :-) So what’s this crap about how people think you are goth becuase you look pale? There are women in Florida that are more pale than you look. Anyways,I am not making any sense right now becuase of the recent hurricane Floyd fiasco.

  Talk to you soon.. I have some pics if you want some..

  ‘bighead’? It’s pretty dumb to insult and then cover it later with flattery.

6. Missing The Point

• I am a photographer and looking for people to model for me. PLease click the blue link under sender’s profile to see my ad and then reply or call
  xxx-xxx-xxxx if you are interested…

  Dion

  People join online personals for dating purposes, not to find modeling opportunities.

• I just have to say I am absoulutely amazed at your ad. I would have wrote the same exact ad aside from being female and your personal things. I moved out to So-Cal about a year and a half ago and I too had that special someone however things didnt really work out like they were supposed to (do they ever?) Anyway I have met a lot of people and made a lot of friendships. You seem like a really nice person and thats an admirable quality out here. I am from back East and I am definately different minded then most of the freaks (oops I mean people out here) Thats not to say I dont enjoy watching them its kind of fun. But anyway I definately enjoy the things you do and would like to have a simple friendship and explore LA(since I havent had that much of a chance to). A little about me Im 6′0 tall, 25 y.o., athletic build, 185 lbs., and Im told Im very attractive in the all american type look (however I dont have that sexy LA bad boy look). So write me back if you are interested and we can go from there. By they way its funny but I too was in awe of the beauty I saw on the drive out here.

  What? Mistress hunting?

• hi =)

  i saw your ad and i think you’re very pretty

  i am a male film student, i own a digital motion camera, and i want to film a gonzo adult film, which is girls having sex, while clothed guys are there for comedy

  i already have two other pretty girls interested in working with me, and i think you’d make a great addition

  so i am offering to write, direct, and film you in an adult feature, based in the l.a. area

  please write back =)

  Clothed guys watching girls have sex? You must be kidding me. LOL

With huge free sites like match.com and Yahoo personals, many people have taken the match making scene online. The advantage lies in the mutual environment that online dating sites provide. Who you want to make contact with is up to you. You get to view others’ profile, and they get to view yours. If they like you, they’ll reply. Same goes vice versa. But the thing is, how do you pull it off without sounding like a tasteless, boring weirdo?

Easy. Learn from experience. Rather it be others’ than yours. Below are 3 of 10 categorized examples of how a failure’s reply sound like.

Disgusting

• I have a breast fantasy I would love to live out with you, i am willing to pay you to help make it come true, I’m a single white male 5′9″ 150lbs good looking.

  Dude, all you need is a lifetime subscription of ‘Girls Gone Wild’ and a bottle of KY jelly.

• I am so impressed with you in many ways..the mind which you contain..the subtle curves of your body which is very sexy..and the coy look on your girlish face which I have such an urge to kiss.

  I would be more relaxed just discussing the comments you’re receiving from your personal and the demands of your website as I feel it will be very popular. I will tell you more about myself when I’m sure you have received this email and I see how often you reply. I will send a picture with any replies you offer. I will answer any question or try and supply any wishes you have, no bother to me as to how personal.

  I feel that personal and intimate interaction is so stimulating..Would you like to join an exhibitionist maillist group here in ft worth/texas? I can send you the information if you wish.

  Enraptured,Robg

  Reply so that I know it’s safe to send my picture

  Guys, this is how it goes. Scour profiles. Write to interested ones, giving only as much info as her profile offers. On the other side, she’ll check her responses and reply if she’s interested. There, simple as drinking water.

• I AM SINGLE. ATTRACTIVE AND 27 Y/O

  YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, HAVE GREAT EYES AND SEEM INTERESTING….

  WELL E-MAIL ME AND WE CAN GO ON FROM THERE..

  BY THE WAY, I LOVE WOMEN IN SHORT SKIRTS, THIGH HIGH STOCKINGS, SUPER HIGH HEELS, MAKES ME THE REAL MAN-!!!!!!

  8 INCHES OF R E A L MAN–!!!!!!!!!!!!

  LOL. You must be Ben Dover. You should be looking for Ilean Dover.

What the..??

• Now i wonder you so when i read message yours which express all my thinks in my mind Realy i;am here for your rsquest i want you To be with me here in cairo ,EG. thus i send You as you want why am i write to you i think if you like to know me more i’ll be ready to send you the costs to bring here I want you be serious in your talking and as You did as sorry i forget to know you by my self i’am egyptian man work in the field of medicine and my profissional is chemist so I’ve a part-time to be good friends not for fun only but all our wishs in the life.now We hope to start.

  Oh Lord, may this profissional be less confissinal.

• Wow I can see that u hold a lot gall. Well lets see, u r nice fram what i read and u looking for that right person Well perhaps u had recieved many emails, but I think i believe in meeting couse if we share thoughts we maid become great partnes. Ill sent u my pic after u reply

  fram what i read, u need many lasens to brus up u englis couse u maid risk be singel 4 life

• HI MY NAME IS JOE AND I AM FROM CHESNUT H-ILL PHILY I AM 6′2″ 29 YR OLD SHORT BLACK HAIR BR EYES JEWISH GAY175 LB I WOULD LIKE VERY MACH TO TO TO YOU BY E-MAIL I ALMOST DOING THE SAME JOB YOU DO I AM AN AUTO CAD DESIGN I AM ORIGIANLY FROM ISRAEL LIVING HERE ALREADY 7 YR SO PLEASE IF YOU WONT TO E-MAIL ME BACK AT *_____@___.COM THIS IS MY WORK ADDRESS OR AT HOME WICH WOULD BE BETER EVEN BECAUSE OVER AT HOME I HAVE MY PIC SO I WILL BE ABALE TO SEND IT TO YOU SO _____@___.COM SO SEE YOU LATER BYE AND HAVE A GOOD DAY.

  Gay? Jewish gay at 175 pounds? You know, you don’t have to to to put _____@___.COM to get an email.

Too Much To Handle

• Hi my name is dean. i’ve been writing to these adds and I never got A response from any of these adds.Are you going to answer my add back.I’m getting A scanner it is on order at sear.I will send you a pic when I get it could you write me back until I send you A pic.I’m A nice guy but I’m shy until I get to know someone.I like going to the pool,movies driven are best.I haven’t been to a driven in a long time.I like playing on the computer.I’m learning abuot the computer as I go.

  Desperate = no reply. Include everything before answering ads.

• Just waisting time and saw how much alike we might be, sick and twisted sense of humor..ect. I am a wee bit older than what you specified in your post, but if all you wanna do is email….. well is that such a big deal? You can find a picture and a little about me at my site.

  Schmookipus

  Schmookipus???? LOL!!!!!!!!!! sexyfroggy? huggiewoof?

• I do fit your bill, to the tee, minus 1 thing. I’m into all cartoons (basically) and dig your humor, but am also in need of a physical and emotional relationship. Nice pic.

  im a design engineer full time, bartender part-time, if you want i’d like to hangout sometime.

  In need of a relationship? (error buzzer goes off) *buzzzzzzzzz…* Yes, you need oxygen, you need food, you need water but NOT a relationship.

Way Too Personal
Lorina’s adventures in the online dating scene

My friend is suicidal. How I be of help?

According to the National Mental Health Association, more than 19 million Americans suffer from depression each year. Among teens, one out of five is depressed. Suicide comes into a person’s mind when life reaches a climax of unbearable pain. These are the times your friend doesn’t think he can ever get through, but when he does, he won’t know how he got through it. Here are several ways to deal with it.

• Try talking to your friend. If you think that the source of depression comes from the family, don’t speak with them. If not, talk to his parents. Let them know about your concern and the seriousness of the situation. Talk to a professional about it. Ending a person’s life is something that cannot be replaced. Once gone, it’s gone forever.
• Be a true friend and keep his mind occupied. Pick up a hobby together that uses up a lot of strength and power. Maybe he’s a pain glutton. Try body building. It will keep his body in shape and healthy, plus release all the rage inside.
• Start buying him lots and lots of dark chocolate. Why? Cause it keeps a person happy. Really. Dark chocolate has this thing called ‘phenylethylamine’ which enhances your mood.
• Do something crazy with him. Go for a haircut. Something different for a change. Dye it, highlight it, shave it. Whatever. Feel new. Feel different. Feel good.
• Have a look at depression.com

How do I ask my crush out?

• Look for common ground. Music, class, office politics or even mutual friends will help.
• Timing is very important. Don’t ask during breaks. Ask in private. When I was in school, I waited till after class to ask. My chance came when both our parents came late to pick us up. *jeng* *jeng* *jeng*… when opportunity came knocking on my door, I took it. =P
• Maybe there’s no chance that you and your crush could be alone for even a moment. Or maybe you’re too shy. Then, this is where other methods of communication come in. You can choose to email her, sms her, write a note and leave it on her desk.
• Ask your friends for help. Invite him/her out to fun and interesting activities like movies or dinners with mutual friends so that both of you have a comfortable environment to start in.

My best friend got a boyfriend and now she ignores me. What should I do?

It’s good to know that your best friend ignored you. It shows that you are only ‘used’ when she is lonely. But if you still think of all the years and good times that you’ve went through together and it makes you sad to see the friendship end, confront her. Tell her how you feel. Tell her about the disappointment you feel. Tell her (if you and her are best friends I believe you will be crying when you say this) that ‘these tears are the last tears’ that you will ever cry for her. Warn her to not come and cry to you if/when she breaks up with her boyfriend.

Yeah. That should sound better. Remember, do not risk yourself by asking questions. Just say how you feel and how you will treat her from that day onwards. The day will come when she grows up, but until then, carry on with your life.

What is considered cheating on someone?

Simple. It’s cheating if you say yes to these 4 :

• you have to hide it or lie about it.
• it’ll lower your partner’s self-esteem.
• you feel guilty about it.
• you wouldn’t want your partner to do it.

My mom and I don’t have a good relationship. What can I do to improve it?

• Write out your feelings in a journal and let her read them when she’s calm. Blogging helps.
• Maybe your mom doesn’t mean to have a bad temper. Maybe your mom is probably frustrated with her work or family situation. Maybe her anger is towards things you do or you don’t do. Maybe she a lot of things to do in very little time. Maybe you can contribute in getting some things done for her.
• Try movies, lunch, dinner, concerts, park rides or just give her a surprise b’day party. Try to reacquaint by doing things together.

How do I get along with my parents and talk to them without crying?

From a child’s perspective, some parents

• act like they know everything
• always boss you around
• are picky
• strict
• extra overprotective
• embarrass them in front of their friends.

I believe that children are the products of their parents whose message to their children is ‘do as I do’, and until some children breaks the cycle, only then will morality and bondage come back.

Ask yourself. Do they yell or overreact? Do you feel like you’re not being heard? Do they treat you like a child instead of a person who is becoming an adult? It would be helpful if you can let them know the reasons why you get upset.

Try talking to one parent at a time. A letter would also be a good idea. And try not to jump to conclusions. Most parents want to help their children with difficult problems. If you expect a parent to respond with a lecture and not really hear you out, you might actually get what you expect. Although it may be a little scary to think about, it is often true that the way we approach a situation has a lot to do with what happens. For example, if we approach a situation with negative expectations, we may do things to make a negative outcome more likely. On the other hand, if you can try to be open and honest, then your parents might also respond openly and honestly.

My boyfriend is all about my boobs. How do I get him to notice me and not my breasts?

lol. Talk to him. Tell him about how you feel. That’s it. If he’s still being childish about it. Then maybe you should reevaluate your relationship. A relationship without respect is like Wan Ton Soup without Won Ton. A couple who stops thinking and acting alike will lose attraction to each other. Once a person changes his character and outlook, the relationship will change too.

My parents walked in on my girlfriend and me having sex. What should I do now?

Damn. This is tough. Locks were invented for a reason, right? One thing is for sure. Parents will either react hard or easy. Believe me, both parties will surely be embarrassed. Sometimes it will result in anger, sometimes it will result in a mutual understanding.

If they don’t say anything, let it be. If they do behave or act funny, approach them for a time where you and your parents can talk about it. Be honest and open for comments. Remember that other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality. Let them finish talking before you say anything. Show some respect. When it’s your turn to talk, expect the same.

One more thing, please remember to lock the room. =)

I broke up with a guy who i really cared for and ever since then i am horribly sad. How can I get over this depression?

Time heals all wounds. Not your friends, family, comedies or counseling but time.

• Eat a bar of Hershey’s daily. It should keep you happy. Don’t over eat, ya.
• Take up a sport. Let go of all the frustration on the cycling machine, treadmill and dumbbells.
• The universal rule of karma. What goes around, comes around.

Once you’ve healed. Get a life. Socialize. Make as many friends as you can and stick to the ones that are true and honest. Make sure you have a life of your own before hopping on another relationship. See what you wanna achieve in life and go for it. Know that nothing in this world last forever. You should live your life for no one else in this world, but yourself.

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Earlier, I wrote on the 3 basic stuff to know about kissing. I think that it is not complete without keeping in mind these 5 things to refrain from.

Bad Breath

This is the NO.1 thing to avoid when kissing. Bad breath will leave a negative impression on you in your partner. It will stick to the person that you’re dating and it is enough to make them reconsider kissing you again. Really, chew gum if you can’t brush your teeth. If you’ve eaten bad breath promoters like garlic or curry, do this.

• First, eat lots of high water content fruits like watermelon, papayas, apples, grapes or any kind of berry will do.
• Then, eat ice cream to clear the walls from the throat to the stomach. The stickiness of the ice cream will do the job well.
• Lastly, brush your teeth. If not possible, chew gum.

Monotonous Kissing

No one in this world can continuously eat KFC everyday. No one can stand listening to the same song over and over again everyday for a year. Same goes to kissing. Alter the intensity. Move up when you feel it’s starting to get boring. Pump up the beat. Be creative. Play some R&B songs and kiss along to the beat. Maybe kiss longer.

Silence

If you watch Grey’s Anatomy, watch and learn what McDreamy does when he kisses Meredith. After a while, say something good to your partner’s ears. Something like ‘you look gorgeous from here’ or a simple ‘I love you’, ‘I miss you’ will do. No doubt there is nothing wrong with silence but saying sweet things every now and then motivates your partner and yourself.

Don’t choke him/her

Don’t use the tongue too intensely. I know there’s a lot of passion involved at the moment but try to control yourself. Stop just after awhile and wait for a response. If the other party likes it and wants more, you will know. Lessen the tongue action and focus on making your partner comfortable and relaxed.

Use your free hands

Caress your partner. Move along the areas of the cheek, chin, neck, shoulders and back. Hold your partner’s hands. Give them a short hug. Play with the hair. Move very slowly and gently. This will keep up the flame.

How To Kiss
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The first kiss

Usually, there’s inhibitions before going for the first one. If both parties continue to be shy, then nothing will happen. One party needs to do the initiation. This goes for guys and girls. Be gentle and keep your lips closed. All that the initiator need to do is move their lips to 90% of the way and leave a 10% room for a response. The other person may not be ready, so don’t go all the way. Always leave room for a response. It keeps things mutual. =)

Accidents

Accidents can happen anytime. Bang teeth and bit lips are 2 common ones. All you need to do is laugh it off. Say something funny like, ‘Kissing you is like alchohol. The more we kiss, the ‘higher’ I get’. Laughing breaks the awkwardness. After that, get back to kissing, and get ‘high’ for REAL!

Passion

It’s best to kiss with your heads off-set at an angle. Always try to swallow before you kiss. Moist, not wet. Get your hands in on the action. Caress the face, hold the neck and pull your partner to you. Suck and nibble the lips in between the tongue-probing. Every now and then, detour away from the lips, elsewhere on the face. Don’t dominate the kisses. You are kissing together. Stop in time to make your partner want to come back for more.

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Guys, did you know that you didn’t have to look like these guys to score? Or even be as rich as them to be able to woo ladies around you? There are are so many other ways to be successfully attractive. Below are 8 of the many tips that will help you gain ground. =)

Date planning, creatively

It is majorly important how you plan your date. Don’t go for the traditional dinner and movie plan. Choose something different and cool yet still comfortable for the both of you. Put in the effort to come up with something memorable and romantic. I’ve scheduled for a full 1 and a 1/2 hour body massage for two, watch a philharmonic orchestra, fly kites and even once went for dessert at an expensive revolving restaurant in my city. My strategy is to have fun with her everytime she sees me. She will definitely want to keep on seeing me.

Be a gentleman

I only learned to open doors for a woman and pull her chair before she sits on my 4th date! After that, only did I know that ladies appreciate it when I do those things. I was told by my date that she felt like a lady and those little things really did count. If she feels like a queen, then you are king.

Keep to your words

When I say that I’ll come pick a girl up by 7, I’ll definitely be there regardless rain or shine. Same goes to calls. If I say I will call by tomorrow night, I will. Being unpunctual and breaking your words will only protrude a sense of unreliability. Real ladies will want to be respected before being around you. Play games with her and end up playing minesweeper yourself.

Pay attention

Women love talking about themselves. Make her do most of the talking. It will make her happy and you will know better about her. Ask her about her favourites. What kind of food does she like? What is she good at? What’s her favourite ice cream flavour? Favourite cartoon character? Colour? These are important points to remember for the future to help in choosing presents and surprises. She’ll love you for that. She’ll sense your clear interest in her instead of just pure lust for her looks.

Looking is communicating

When you are dancing, eating, or just alking with her, make as much eye contact as possible. Don’t look around the room even if you are shy, or there is a group of A class ladies sitting at 2 o’clock. Your date will feel insecure when she notices your eyes moving all around the room. By paying attention to her eyes, the response is interpreted as ‘I am genuinely interested in being here with you’ and ‘I only have eyes for you’. Once she notices, you will find her more responsive and eventually open up to you.

Be instinctive

Be natural. Take control of yourself, not her. On the first date, if she mentions about how she enjoyed flying kites when she was young, plan a surprise this weekend to take her to the park and fly kites. If she mentiones a lot about romantic environments, bring her for a walk by the beach after dinner, go bowling, go get her her favourite ice cream flavour. Being spontaneous and acting on your inner guidance shows that you are brave and act on impulse to do things that really make you enjoy life. Period.

Pick up lines

Flirt. This will widen your horizon on women. Be fun and playful. You’ll learn to like approaching a woman to blast out corny pick up lines like, ‘If I flip a coin, what are my chances of getting head?’ or ‘Your name must be Mickey, cause you’re so fine’. Keep a straight face and don’t smile. If she smiles at your jokey pick up line, you’re there, bro. Google ‘pick up lines’ and learn.

Be generous on compliments

Ladies of all sorts love compliments. That is why they take hours to get ready before going out on a date. A lot of time will be spent on picking the right dress, the right hair do down to the right hand bag and shoes. So guys, notice their appearance and pick out one thing that stands out. ‘I really like your choice of necklace. It matches your earrings and sparkling eyes’ or ‘Those shoes make your legs look gorgeous. Try it and you will both be amazed.

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Hi ladies. Here are 8 important rules to live by to magnify your dating scene. These are secrets that will increase your market value.

Commit to looking good

Try your best to look the best. Wear make up whenever you leave the house. I have seen the aerobic ladies in my gym wear cute outfits, smell good and hair done properly. Wear contact lens, cut or perm your hair to the latest styles, chew gums after meals and smile. My guy friends and I appreciate it when ladies look and smell awesome!

Focus on fun

Have a life. Attend aerobics or yoga to keep yourself busy. Do activities with your friends like jogging, shopping or watch chick flicks together. Guys like girls who have their own things going on. Your own social life will make you noticed. Believe me that it will strike interest when your focus is not on ‘getting the guy’.

Socialize

Mix around. Don’t stick to only 1 group of friends. If you were looking for a soft toy, you wouldn’t shop over and over again at the same store, right? It’s the same as meeting guys. Like point no. 2, go do something that you enjoy. Charity groups and pilates classes are stuff that you should try out. The more guys you know, the more chances are to find your kinda guy.

Don’t give in easily

Even if you feel like giving him more attention, don’t. Don’t do it even if you might go crazy thinking of him if you don’t give him a call in the next five minutes. Resist. Play hard to get. If he calls you, double the time before calling him back. When you get a sms, double the time before replying. Act cool and talk to everyone as much as you talk to him. Only tell him how you feel after he tells you. This will fire up your guy to win you. It leaves the guy wanting more and it will become more of a challenge to him.

Know about sports

Guys love when a girl can talk about their favorite team. Imagine yourself as a sports loving, sexy lady showing up in a hot top and jeans. Don’t go paint yourself in the face or dress ruggedly. Don’t try hard to be one of his ‘male friends’. Guys already have their own male friends. Be your sexy self and have enough knowledge to carry out a decent sports related conversation.

‘Wing Commanders’

There are 2 kinds of girl groups that annoy guys. One is a group of girls who look underage or a group who drinks all the liquor on the table. Guys do not like to be near a gaggle of giggling, tipsy girls. So if your intention is to get attention, bring ‘wing commanders’. They are attractive, mature ladies whom you can depend on to be able to hold their liquor and have lots of fun at the same time. Whenever you go out with other cool, confident and classy ladies, I assure you that you will attract guys like bees to honey.

Be comically interested

Most guys have a sense of laughter. Sometimes, the jokes are pretty lame. If you can see with your eyes and know with your mind that he his clearly looking for laughs, stimulate his confidence. Laugh as authentic as you can. The act will certainly elevate your guy’s confidence and he will notice you for making him feel good.

No inhibitions

If you can enjoy sex without feeling the need for a committed relationship, that’s a huge bonus. Generally, guys love ladies who feel free to enjoy sex without the emotional trappings. It’s more of the challenge and wanting what you can’t have thing that stirs up the guy. The fact of a girl being uninhibited about sex is already attractive on its own. Everyone comes from a different culture, so it’s okay to be yourself. The earlier 7 tips are already hot enough to bring any girl to their attractive height. =)

Never Argue With Women

Guys, we’ll never win. Why? Cause we have a tendency to make sense. That is why we should always let her win. If she wants you to come home early just say ‘Yes’. If you get accused and pushed to admit for forgetting the dishes just say ‘Yes’. If she’s just bought a $200 dress that can turn off a guy from miles away and excitedly asks you if it is nice, just say ‘Yes’. Buy yourself a rubber stamp and chop it all with a ‘Yes’ mark.

Always laugh at her jokes

Guys, we have a stronger sense of humour. So next time she tries to tell a joke that is so lame you’ll feel like committing suicide, laugh. Make her feel appreciated.

Always remember (keep memos and reminders):

• her birthday
• your anniversary
• your first kiss with her
• your first movie together
• valentine’s day
• next Friday’s barbecue at her friend’s
• to hang, fold, keep the clothes
• all other arrangements that she made

Read body language

This is VERY important. Guys, we’ll have better psychic powers as time goes by. If you see her with some sexy lingerie and candles lit all around, forget about going out. If you see her come out of the kitchen complaining as you are about to reach the remote, forget about tv. If you are at a party talking to an old girl friend (just friends) and she gives you ‘the stare’, forget about the girl. Pay attention, guys.

Listen

If she says that your car’s cushion feels itchy, wash it. If she says that she’s having stomach cramps from period, go out and get Panadol Menstrual even if it is in the middle of the night. If she says that there is little milk, bread, rice, pasta, sugar, salt left in the ketchen, buy them. If she says she’s feeling dizzy and needs rest after dinner, wash the dishes. It is better to listen in order to understand than to listen in order to reply.

Never complain about what she spends on

If she’s just bought herself a $300 make up set, tell her it’s a good buy. If she’s just bought her 86th shoe, tell her it’s a good buy. If she’s just bought the 6th bracelet, 8th jacket, or the 20th hairpin, tell her it’s a good buy. Always compliment.

Don’t be cheap

Girls will notice EVERY single detail. So don’t think she won’t notice that last minute gift. Instead, be original. For me, I come up with my own poems. Just a simple 4 set 4 line poem will do. Something like :

Thank God for the sunshine,
Thank God for the day you became mine,
What a beautiful year we’ve gone through,
Thank you for your love is like honeydew.

Accompany your own original written poem with a flower or a simple card. Remember, being original gets you the girl.

I would like to hear from you too.

Tuition Classes

I’ve been to extra classes since I was in primary school. Young, isn’t it? Well, my parents wanted me to be well educated and thought that extra tuition classes would help. Little did they know, my motivation were the girls who went to the tuition classes as well. Being young and having just entered high school, hormones were jumping in me. So one day, while I was in class, I decided to write a note saying something simple like ‘Hi, I’m Chris, the guy in the black Nike. I just wanna tell you that your note has fallen to the floor’. I folded the paper, wrote the girl’s name and asked people in between to pass it to her. Oh, I got the name from the attendance sheet. =) Anyways, my friend joined in and I also included other girls’ names in the paper and so it become somewhat of a mass conversation between us. I dated one of them and we are all still in contact till today.

Scouts, Girl Guides and Gatherings

When I was in high school, I was an active scout. I went for gatherings and campfires done by other schools which include both scouts and girl guides. In gatherings, we would play games where the guys were supposed to go look for a partner to play. We would usually exchange contacts with our partners after the whole thing. After attending several gatherings for 4 years, I’ve made quite a lot of friends from all girl schools in my area and we’ve hung out during weekends and parties. They would usually bring their other girl friends and it was just awesome. During camps, we’ll get assigned girl guides and there’ll be like 5 guys and 5 girls in a group and we’ll be sticking together for the whole duration of the camp. We had about 2 months of preparation and in these 2 months we got to know each other better and got closer.

I graduated from high school 7 years ago. At this stage, I found other alternatives to meeting women. I don’t have classes nor campfires anymore so it’s different now. Below is a table listing the high and low requirements for each choice.

Decide

It’s important to be clear with ourselves on what we really want in our life. I was once fat. Back when I was in university, i ate a lot and slept a lot. Which led to the loss of my neck. My neck looked as if it was part of my face. After uni, which was in 2006, I came back to my hometown and realized my health deteriorating. Since then, I have been consistently doing treadmills and lifting weights. Now I feel more confident than ever. All of this happened when I decided. So, it’s the same, we have to decide that we are looking for a partner before anything else can happen. All it takes is a decision.

Define

Defining is the second step. After we’re clear with the direction we’re heading towards, let’s look at the finer aspects of a relationship. Let’s see what we can get out of it. For example, my purpose of going to the gym regularly is to have a well toned body. Good enough for me to fit into any clothing comfortably. I also want to gain a personal self satisfaction where I can approach a conversation with confidence and a positive outlook. Thinking about the outcome keeps me going to the gym consistently. In relationships, we have to also be clear with what we want. Whether it be for fun, security reasons, pride, companionship, etc. Is it for the short run or the long run?

Start Dating

Here’s where the fun begins. We meet our potentials along the line of time and experience all their characters and learn about difficulties while dating. It is also important to be ourselves at all time so that we may see common ground clearly. Whatever it may be, enjoy the time spent and have fun.

Determine the one

My usual weight is 63-65kg. Though it’s normal for a guy my height, a little less and my BMI will show underweight. All I wanted was a six pack, a chest and a pair of muscular legs instead of chicken legs. So I did my research and asked around for methods and equipments to increase the 3 sections of my body. Through trial and error, I developed a workout plan that worked for me. Same goes to dating. When we’ve found someone that likes the same music that we do, likes the same ice cream or watch the same cartoons when we were kids, we know we have a potential partner there.

Maintain Stability

If everything goes well and it follows through, we have ourselves a committed relationship. That’s when maintenance comes in. Like all body builders, I have to keep up with exercising or else my body will deteriorate. I have to do what it takes to maintain the muscles and prevent it from sagging. Here’s an example of Arnold Schwarzenegger.

The focus here should be on ATTRACTION. Attraction is a law of the universe. Let’s take the law of gravity as an example. If you jump of a building, it doesn’t matter if you are a good person or a bad person, you will fall and hit the ground. Same goes for attraction.

A guru once said to me that ‘attraction is not a choice’. If you are attracted to someone, you cannot choose not to be attracted to the person. No matter how much you cry, pound your fists on the wall or how much time you spend doing something else, you’re still attracted. It’s the same if you’re not attracted to the person. No matter what the person does, how many flowers, soft toys, chocolates, necklace, cards he sends you, you still won’t be attracted to him. Isn’t that right? =)

Here’s another example. A typical ‘Ah Lian’ (a Hokkien term for describing an uneducated Chinese girl) is someone who has her hair permed in several shades of brown dye, wears lots of blings, walks roughly, usually holds a cigarette in a hand and talks loudly. An ‘Ah Beng’ (boy) on the other hand drives the ugliest cars in the world, starts and ends sentences with ‘kanineh’ (a Hokkien bad word), smokes alot, wastes his time in video arcades and has a monkey face.

Now think of a normal guy who is pleasant, polite and who dresses well that wants to ask an Ah Lian out for a date. Can you imagine how different are their worlds? Of course she won’t be attracted to him. An Ah Lian and Ah Beng will always go well together because they are the same. If one day, the Ah Beng boyfriend changes his personality, starts dressing well, walking well surely Ah Lian will find him getting less cool and unattractive.

If you ever find a girl you like, notice her social style, appearance and morals. Compare them to yours. Look at habits and compare them. If there is an area that you need to improve, improve it. Keep up to standard. Learn to be as attractive as you can be. If there is no attraction in the first place, there won’t be any date.

So let’s try to be attractive, rather than working like mad to get a crush to like you. Remember, attraction is not a choice. =)

Meaning of Ah Beng
brilliantly defined

Meaning of Ah Lian
again, defined

Now here's a free online dating site developed in 2006. In just less than a year, the site has grown to over 500 members. Sign up will only take 60 seconds. Registrants will also be asked on several aspects about themselves such as :

• location (city, state)
• appearance (height, hair color, body type, ethinicity)
• lifestyle (marital status, smoking/drinking habits, religion, etc)
• extras (profession, interests)

It's good to be specific because it will better meet the requirements of it's members. Each member will also be given a personal URL (http://www.justsayhi.com/{username}) where anyone can just enter to check out the profile. What a good way to publicize yourself. The site will also match profiles and show matches on the dashboard upon login. There will be 6 pictures shown and if you want to check out others, just click on 'more'. There's also a community forum where one can discuss on topics  like :

• poems, quotes, songs
• jokes
• sports
• relationship advice, etc. 

This is a site worth checking out. =)

Just Say Hi
The online dating site 

Why do we flirt?
Here's where the research says that flirting is a part of culture and society in some form all around the world. It is supposed to be instinctive and our brains are actually courtship devices evolved to attract and retain sexual partners

Where to flirt?
Flirting usually takes place at parties, celebrations and social functions.

• Parties 
• Drinking Places
• Learning Places
• Workplace
• Participant Sports / Hobbies
• Spectator Events

In pubs, there are certain rules and restrictions to it. For example, the area around the bar counter is know to be the "public zone" universally. The area where it is acceptable for strangers to initiate conversation. The tables usually indicate a higher desire for privacy. Learning places like university are conducive for flirting as it's easy because of the shared lifestyle and concern of students. The informal atmosphere around is a plus point. In certain companies, flirting around the dispenser/coffee area may be acceptable but others may not like the idea at all. 

Who to flirt with?
2 types of flirting. Flirt for fun or flirt with intent.

i) Fun

You can flirt with more or less anyone. It can actually brighten your day, raise self esteem or even strengthen social bonds. Though it may be harmless fun to some, do take extra care when dealing with married or attached people. Couples differ in tolerance towards flirtatious behavior, so it's important to look out for signs of discomfort.

ii) Intent

Here's where we gotta be choosy. Here are 2 rules that will increase success rate and reduce embarrassment of rejection.

1. Initiate flirtation with people of roughly the same level of attractiveness as yourself
2. Don't flirt with people who are unlikely to return your interest.

How to flirt?

The first step of successful flirting is to convey the message that you like someone. To judge whether the attraction is mutual, a combination of verbal and non-verbal skills are required.

i) Non-Verbal

Here are 7 non-verbal flirting techniques.

1. Eye Contact
2. Interpersonal Distance
3. Postures
4. Gestures
5. Facial Expression
6. Touch
7. Vocal Signals

Our eyes are the most important flirting tool. How we look at another person can make all the difference between a successfu, enjoyable flirtation and an embarrassing encounter. Even from across a crowded room, you can signal interest by holding your gaze for more than a second. If he/she looks back to meet your gaze, you're on. If it triggers a smile, you're on. Distance is important in telling the reaction of the other person towards you. While the other person may be smiling and nodding, his/her real feelings will usually 'leak out' in posture. The same goes to gestures. Women tend to smile more often than men and emotions are shown more clearly in facial expressions.

i) Verbal

1. Opening Lines
2. Turn Taking
3. Talking
4. Listening
5. Reciprocal Disclosure
6. Parting

The best opening lines are always the simple ones like "nice weather today, isn't it?". Awkward ones like "I have only three months to live…" won't really work. Simple ones that nudge gently for a response works much better as it is lighter and not desperate sounding. Try to start a conversation not start a flirtation. Of course for a conversation to work, we need to take turns talking. Look out for signals like when the person starts using meaningless expressions like 'you know'. Certain topics to avoid talking are negativity topics like complaining, or talking bout the bad side of things, over-seriousness, passivity, over-excitement. Compliments are good. Feedback signals like 'hmm', 'aah', 'yeah' are as important too. Humor is a powerful flirting tool. It is almost impossible to flirt successfully or enjoyably without it, and yet it can easily backfire if abused or misused.

The SIRC Guide To Flirting
All of the above are summarised from the link