Comments on: 22 Obvious Ways To Detect And Tell If A Person Is Lying http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying heaven on earth is a choice you must make, not a place we must find Mon, 08 Sep 2008 06:50:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: ME http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-805 ME Tue, 15 Apr 2008 19:57:35 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-805 Whoever typed this article has some serious grammer issues. Hey buddy, put it in Word, do a spelling/grammer check, and THEN post it on the internet. It's hard to take someone seriously when every sentence has an error. Whoever typed this article has some serious grammer issues. Hey buddy, put it in Word, do a spelling/grammer check, and THEN post it on the internet. It’s hard to take someone seriously when every sentence has an error.

]]> By: said http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-723 said Mon, 10 Mar 2008 21:11:25 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-723 Hi , I'm a good liar , so next time , i will pay attention to this stuff and avoid them like the eye direction and the body langage !!! Hi , I’m a good liar , so next time , i will pay attention to this stuff and avoid them like the eye direction and the body langage !!!

]]> By: dude http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-478 dude Sun, 21 Oct 2007 21:12:59 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-478 Hey! I also found out that current research says that liars and truth tellers eyes can react the same way! It doesnt really matter about the eye stuff! Hey! I also found out that current research says that liars and truth tellers eyes can react the same way! It doesnt really matter about the eye stuff!

]]> By: to Beth http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-466 to Beth Wed, 17 Oct 2007 11:56:17 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-466 Beth, you're mistaken. All people are bad. Genesis 6:5 Genesis 8:21 Isaiah 64:6-7 Jeremiah 17:9 John 3:19 Romans 3:10-18 Romans 8:8 1 Corinthians 2:14 Ephesians 2:1-3 2 Timothy 2:25,26 Beth, you’re mistaken. All people are bad.

Genesis 6:5
Genesis 8:21
Isaiah 64:6-7
Jeremiah 17:9
John 3:19
Romans 3:10-18
Romans 8:8
1 Corinthians 2:14
Ephesians 2:1-3
2 Timothy 2:25,26

]]> By: Beth http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-458 Beth Mon, 15 Oct 2007 05:19:46 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-458 I completely don't agree with a lot of what is on this list. First of all, because I think a lot of these examples are people that are nervous (during an interview) I almost always look to the side and then make eye contact and not because I am lying! But because it is a nervous habit. I am aware of it when I do it and some habits are very hard to break. But you can't make assumptions and assume that person is a liar just because of some guys "opinion". Trying to find "clues" as to whether someone is lying to you can lead a person to being Paranoid and overly critical. And, honestly~ I don't know of one person who has never told a lie before. So, this is list is just jumping to conclusions and jumping the gun when it really isn't fair to the person you are "guessing" about. You could be completely wrong, and then what???? You didn't hire that person because of a stupid list? or you kill your wife in a jealous rage because you think she is lying? I don't know, I just think these "lists" go way too far. If you want to know if someone is lying to you???? I say, go with your intuition and your gut feeling when you meet a person. If you are in a relationship and want to know if someone is lying, ask them flat out and show them the Bible verse that shows what God says about Liars and what will happen to liars. I know it may sound extreme but it may also work. Take care! and quit being so paranoid. See the good in people. Not all people are bad. I completely don’t agree with a lot of what is on this list.
First of all, because I think a lot of these examples are
people that are nervous (during an interview) I almost
always look to the side and then make eye contact and
not because I am lying! But because it is a nervous habit.
I am aware of it when I do it and some habits are very
hard to break. But you can’t make assumptions and assume
that person is a liar just because of some guys “opinion”.
Trying to find “clues” as to whether someone is lying to
you can lead a person to being Paranoid and overly critical.
And, honestly~ I don’t know of one person who has never
told a lie before. So, this is list is just jumping to conclusions
and jumping the gun when it really isn’t fair to the person
you are “guessing” about. You could be completely wrong,
and then what???? You didn’t hire that person because of
a stupid list? or you kill your wife in a jealous rage because
you think she is lying? I don’t know, I just think these
“lists” go way too far. If you want to know if someone is
lying to you???? I say, go with your intuition and your
gut feeling when you meet a person. If you are in a relationship
and want to know if someone is lying, ask them flat out and
show them the Bible verse that shows what God says about
Liars and what will happen to liars. I know it may sound
extreme but it may also work. Take care! and quit being
so paranoid. See the good in people. Not all people are bad.

]]> By: Charles http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-446 Charles Wed, 10 Oct 2007 17:20:02 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-446 I spent 10 years in the FBI as an interrogator and a video analyst. My job was to report whether or not I thought a suspect was lying or not by just listening to them - no polygraph. You can always pick them out when they do something they don't normally do. Almost this whole list branches from this concept. For example, if during the entire questioning a person is calm and cool, and all of a sudden they tilt their head to the left when answering a controversial question, you can bet he is lying. However, like kyouki said, if the person normally fidgets and they are fidgeting during questioning, then you cannot assume the person is lying based on their fidgeting. Good post, though. I spent 10 years in the FBI as an interrogator and a video analyst. My job was to report whether or not I thought a suspect was lying or not by just listening to them - no polygraph. You can always pick them out when they do something they don’t normally do. Almost this whole list branches from this concept. For example, if during the entire questioning a person is calm and cool, and all of a sudden they tilt their head to the left when answering a controversial question, you can bet he is lying. However, like kyouki said, if the person normally fidgets and they are fidgeting during questioning, then you cannot assume the person is lying based on their fidgeting.
Good post, though.

]]> By: liar http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-443 liar Tue, 09 Oct 2007 20:17:10 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-443 by the way user Enough is enough this website is not bullshit ya dork by the way user Enough is enough
this website is not bullshit ya dork

]]> By: liar http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-442 liar Tue, 09 Oct 2007 20:14:33 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-442 this rocks i've been wondreing if my friends are always lying to me this rocks i’ve been wondreing if my friends are always lying to me

]]> By: dude http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-434 dude Fri, 05 Oct 2007 21:13:47 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-434 alot of these ways to tell if someone is lying are the same thing alot of these ways to tell if someone is lying are the same thing

]]> By: David L http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-426 David L Wed, 26 Sep 2007 21:17:56 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-426 In my 41 years on this planet I have realized that...most of what is said here is good IF it is cross checked a second time. Think about it..if they tell a story, wait a day or wo and rephrase the question. Ask them again, get the same event under question and THEN see what they say. Does their story change. Liars WILL add new detail, because to the liar it gives them more credibility...they think...in YOUR mind. BUT if the facts cannot be true...you'll know it. an example would be: Of course I was at work, Larry, Lisa and Mark were there doing the dishes etc. Next day: I remember Mark and Lisa doing the dishes, they can tell yo I was there. YOu: What about Larry & Tom? Liar: They had already gone home. YOu: Really? Are you sure? (a good way to get "them" to solidify their own answerLiar: Yes I am sure, "why would Ilie about that? You: Hummm.Yesterday you said, MArk, Lisa AND Larry! Liar: No I didn't, you must have heard me wrong. Now can people forget, what they said the day before? Sure BUT they are "probably" and I say this thinking about the law of averages, they are probably liying about what really happened. IF you can keep revisiting, (and I would suggest writing what they say down a short time later-so your memory doesn't come into question) but revisiting thier stories, allows you to see a pattern of either a mental problem with memory recall -or- a liar telling lies. A great way of spotting a liar is when you catch them not making sense and pointing out how "their own stories" do not add up....they,"not having a leg to stand on", will attack your character..."ad hominem attack" as a way to discredit your facts about them. But I'd have to say as a rule..."there could be exceptions of course", but as a rule these tell tale signs above are pretty accurate. Most people do not realize how they give themselves away. Your job is to read the person, on the spot and compare it to what they "usually" do, if you can. But people do lie...alot. My ex's van was not at work when I drove by. She tried to say later that she probably just left before I got there. I got curious and asked for some proof. The fact was her timesheet said she clocked out at the same time I was driving by. She went on to say "now that she remembered" she was there. When I pointed out that I am sure of when I went by....she resorted to saying I was delusional or crazy and just didn't see it...lol! The real give away was when she made her 1st story of why she was there, "and i just didn't see the van" she gave too much time to being there and then.....she couldn't explain how she gave the cook a ride home and came home herself in just 15 minutes....laughs. So what did she do? She said that she never gave the times in question, that my memeory was bad...(glad I wrote it down) and said I was just crazy...even more! Point: Don't believe what you hear. Ask not just once but several times and see if they prove it and stick to their own facts -or- lie! Good Hunting! Dave In my 41 years on this planet I have realized that…most of what is said here is good IF it is cross checked a second time.
Think about it..if they tell a story, wait a day or wo and rephrase the question. Ask them again, get the same event under question and THEN see what they say. Does their story change. Liars WILL add new detail, because to the liar it gives them more credibility…they think…in YOUR mind. BUT if the facts cannot be true…you’ll know it.
an example would be: Of course I was at work, Larry, Lisa and Mark were there doing the dishes etc.
Next day: I remember Mark and Lisa doing the dishes, they can tell yo I was there.
YOu: What about Larry & Tom?
Liar: They had already gone home.
YOu: Really? Are you sure? (a good way to get “them” to solidify their own answerLiar: Yes I am sure, “why would Ilie about that?
You: Hummm.Yesterday you said, MArk, Lisa AND Larry!
Liar: No I didn’t, you must have heard me wrong.

Now can people forget, what they said the day before? Sure BUT they are “probably” and I say this thinking about the law of averages, they are probably liying about what really happened.
IF you can keep revisiting, (and I would suggest writing what they say down a short time later-so your memory doesn’t come into question) but revisiting thier stories, allows you to see a pattern of either a mental problem with memory recall -or- a liar telling lies.

A great way of spotting a liar is when you catch them not making sense and pointing out how “their own stories” do not add up….they,”not having a leg to stand on”, will attack your character…”ad hominem attack” as a way to discredit your facts about them.

But I’d have to say as a rule…”there could be exceptions of course”, but as a rule these tell tale signs above are pretty accurate.
Most people do not realize how they give themselves away. Your job is to read the person, on the spot and compare it to what they “usually” do, if you can.

But people do lie…alot.
My ex’s van was not at work when I drove by. She tried to say later that she probably just left before I got there.
I got curious and asked for some proof. The fact was her timesheet said she clocked out at the same time I was driving by. She went on to say “now that she remembered” she was there.
When I pointed out that I am sure of when I went by….she resorted to saying I was delusional or crazy and just didn’t see it…lol!

The real give away was when she made her 1st story of why she was there, “and i just didn’t see the van” she gave too much time to being there and then…..she couldn’t explain how she gave the cook a ride home and came home herself in just 15 minutes….laughs.
So what did she do?
She said that she never gave the times in question, that my memeory was bad…(glad I wrote it down) and said I was just crazy…even more!

Point: Don’t believe what you hear. Ask not just once but several times and see if they prove it and stick to their own facts -or- lie!

Good Hunting!
Dave

]]> By: Enough is enough http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-277 Enough is enough Tue, 21 Aug 2007 18:02:59 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-277 I left the following reply (as well as my comment here earlier) to www.dumblittleman.com. Seems to be the same here too... Now it says: 18,662 Views on this site. You CANNOT all be intellectually dishonest?!? === Sigh... Have any of you even read the links I gave you? This is bullshit. And seeing all these lists (in this blog) purporting to be the way to eternal bliss (or whatever)... All I can say is that you are deluding yourselves... ...big time. === I left the following reply (as well as my comment here earlier) to http://www.dumblittleman.com. Seems to be the same here too… Now it says: 18,662 Views on this site. You CANNOT all be intellectually dishonest?!?

===

Sigh… Have any of you even read the links I gave you? This is bullshit. And seeing all these lists (in this blog) purporting to be the way to eternal bliss (or whatever)… All I can say is that you are deluding yourselves… …big time.

===

]]> By: Jörn http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-271 Jörn Mon, 20 Aug 2007 05:17:07 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-271 I always found this trick to detect liars quite helpful: If a liar got time to make a story up, most of them tend to be just _too_ perfect. In most cases, the story will have far too many details to be true. I always found this trick to detect liars quite helpful: If a liar got time to make a story up, most of them tend to be just _too_ perfect. In most cases, the story will have far too many details to be true.

]]> By: chrishazzooo http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-258 chrishazzooo Sun, 19 Aug 2007 16:23:52 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-258 Tenniscoach...NEVER use the term ALWAYS...not all users use this technique everytime...though it IS a red flag. I find that #3 and #20 are in direct conflict with each other. Which is it? Liars give more detail or lack detail? A smart/good one with give less detail. Hoping that their accuser will leave it at that. Bad liars give far too much detail and hang themselves fairly quickly. Tenniscoach…NEVER use the term ALWAYS…not all users use this technique everytime…though it IS a red flag.

I find that #3 and #20 are in direct conflict with each other. Which is it? Liars give more detail or lack detail? A smart/good one with give less detail. Hoping that their accuser will leave it at that. Bad liars give far too much detail and hang themselves fairly quickly.

]]> By: Enough is enough http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-257 Enough is enough Sun, 19 Aug 2007 12:12:20 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-257 OH NO! This bullshit is making the rounds again and again! See the debunking: http://itre.cis.upenn.edu/~myl/languagelog/archives/004776.html http://itre.cis.upenn.edu/~myl/languagelog/archives/004782.html http://itre.cis.upenn.edu/~myl/languagelog/archives/004795.html OH NO! This bullshit is making the rounds again and again! See the debunking:

http://itre.cis.upenn.edu/~myl/languagelog/archives/004776.html

http://itre.cis.upenn.edu/~myl/languagelog/archives/004782.html

http://itre.cis.upenn.edu/~myl/languagelog/archives/004795.html

]]> By: Chris http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-256 Chris Sun, 19 Aug 2007 05:15:16 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-256 tenniscoach : wow. makes sense. tenniscoach : wow. makes sense.

]]> By: tenniscoach http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-255 tenniscoach Sun, 19 Aug 2007 02:01:01 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-255 They didn't mention the adam's apple. People who lie take a big swallow -just before they lie. Also forgot to mention that a liar will ALWAYS repeat the question that they are asked of they are going to lie. Example : Law Enforcement : Did you steal that pair of jeans from the store? Criminal/ Liar : Did I steal the jeans from the store? Perfect example of a liar. A liar loves the art of delay to gather their lie. They didn’t mention the adam’s apple. People who lie take a big swallow -just before they lie.
Also forgot to mention that a liar will ALWAYS repeat the question that they are asked of they are going to lie. Example :
Law Enforcement : Did you steal that pair of jeans from the store?
Criminal/ Liar : Did I steal the jeans from the store?
Perfect example of a liar. A liar loves the art of delay to gather their lie.

]]> By: dronkmunk http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-253 dronkmunk Sat, 18 Aug 2007 19:21:16 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-253 ^^^^that's cause YOU'RE A LIAAAHHHH ^^^^ ^^^^that’s cause YOU’RE A LIAAAHHHH ^^^^

]]> By: kyouki http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-240 kyouki Sat, 18 Aug 2007 02:08:55 +0000 http://losu.org/relations/22-obvious-ways-to-detect-and-tell-if-a-person-is-lying#comment-240 this list has flaws, most notably not everyone is the same. i for one, fidget all the time...whether or not im talking to people or if im lying. 2nd, i HATE looking ppl in the eyes..idk why i just never liked it so i never do it this list has flaws, most notably not everyone is the same.
i for one, fidget all the time…whether or not im talking to people or if im lying. 2nd, i HATE looking ppl in the eyes..idk why i just never liked it so i never do it

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