Category: Relations

Lying is something that happens everyday in every society. A person may want to to deceive, maintain a secret or reputation, or to avoid punishment. In business, politics, romance or at home it happens and it would also be nice to know when we’re being lied to.

Fidgeting

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Fidgeting is the most obvious giveaway. Watch for hands and legs that are shaky, rubbing, stiff, self directed, touching the face, nose, chest or behind the ear. Arms crossed over the chest while speaking is the body language for protection and sense of insecurity linked to lying. Other actions include biting the lip, covering the mouth, rubbing the forehead or temple, squinting of the eyes or rubbing of the neck. Women tend to touch their throat’s trachial area.

Over Denial



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Repeating protests of innocence.

Lack Of Detail

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Liars’ stories often lack detail. Push for particulars. The more specific details that a liar has to provide, the more likely he is to slip up.

Uncooperative

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Liars are noticeably less cooperative. They are also more likely to complaint, make more negative statements and appear unfriendly to minimize slip ups.

Eye Contact

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Unwillingness to make or never breaking eye contact is often sign of deceit.

Dilated Pupils

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Dilated pupils and a rise in vocal pitch are more common in liars than people who told the truth.

Pausing

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Forced to make up a story on the spot, most speakers will take a beat or two to collect their thoughts. Lies require a quick mental review of what they have told others to avoid inconsistency and to make up new details as needed.

Inconsistency

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Having someone repeat the story again will enable you to look for inconsistencies to ferret out lies.

Consciously Trying Too Hard

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Someone who is consciously trying to make you think he’s honest may be lying. For example you may hear the phrase ‘to be honest’ more often than not. Generally, people assume that they will be trusted most of the time. If someone expects otherwise, take a moment to think.

Being Open To Possibilities

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Liars succeed in the area where listeners themselves do not really want to know the truth. So be honest with yourself about what it is you want to hear. A boss may want to believe that a trusted employee didn’t have his hand in the cookie jar. However, does the story make sense?

Eye Direction

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Their eyes are not fixed upon whom they are speaking to. If the person looks up to the left upper corner of their eye, they are pulling strategy from their right side of the brain, which is the creative side, therefore creating a situation or lying. Looking at the right upper corner of the eye will invoke the left side of the brain which indicates visual recalling.

Stuttering

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Stumbling over words without natural fluency.

Change Of Subject

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Changing subjects quickly. A liar will definitely welcome the change and try to maintain the new subject. Their interests are clearly seen. An innocent person will appear confuse and may also try returning to the previous subject.

Level Of Comfort

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When someone is comfortable with you while answering your questions, they will move to their comfort positions, eg. tilting their head to one side or the other. When asked a question that they might lie about or feel threatened by, they will straighten or stiffen up, no longer tilting their head.

Unusually Longer Response

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Q : Are there any drugs or weapons in your car?
A : There shouldn’t be.
Q : Is this your car?
A : Yes.

There are drugs and/or guns/knives in the car. An innocent person in their own car would answer with an emphatic ‘NO’. Unusually much longer responses or too many details may tip you off to their desperation to get you to believe them.

Filling The Gap

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Someone trying to lie may also ‘bridge’ over something they do not want to tell you.

Ah’s Um’s Er’s

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People using um, ah, hmm, before answering questions are trying to think of an answer, that more times than not, is going to be a lie.

Over Formal Speech

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Use of long words, painfully correct grammar and the full form of words or phrases that would normally be shortened, suggesting a scripted speech rather than natural conversation.

Very Few Gestures And No Pointing

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Physical movements illustrating something being described is a common and natural activity.

Justification

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Attempting to justify every detail with lengthy explanations.

Conflict In Verbal And Physical Projection

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You can find many discrepancies between a lie and the actions. You may also find mismatches between the tone of voice and expression. Be sensitive to the person’s emotional expression, specifically the timing and duration, which tends to be off when someone is lying. Emotions can be delayed, remain longer than usual, then stop suddenly. Likewise, they might not match appropriately with verbal statements.

Most Obvious Giveaway



On paper. Seeing what someone said in writing is much more effective in detecting lies than listening to them.

If someone who knows what he is going to be asked will surely have prepared himself. The best liars in the world are the most thorough ones. For example, when Bill Clinton looked at those reporters and told them he never had relations ‘with that woman’ and never blinked or gave ANY indication he was lying, he broke the mold.

The goal is to put a smile on their faces. As a token of appreciation for the effort and contribution of our fathers for the past 1 year. It’s around the corner and if you still need ideas on what to get for your father, here are 16 suitable father’s day gifts.

Electronic shaver / after shave



All men need this. Save your dad time and get him an electronic shaver. If he already has one, get him an aftershave. Aftershave is essential in closing up the exposed skin pores that happens after shaving. This will prevent any bacteria or dirt from accumulating inside. If you’re a guy and you don’t use aftershave, the red spots that you see after shaving are actually bacteria.

Cologne



Cologne is consumable. Sooner or later, he will finish the current one. Look out for the Father’s Day promotion specials in perfume outlets. They tend to have discounts.

New / interesting underwear / briefs / boxers



Check out his waist size. Then check out whether if he wears briefs, boxers or underwear. Get him a new pair or 2. Throw in some humor. Buy heart shaped ones or polka dots. =P

iPod / accessories



Get him an ipod. If he already has one, get him ipod accessories. Men are all about gadgets.

Laptop accessories



Get him a new laptop skin. You can easily find lots of different laptop skins in online auction sites like ebay.

Digital photo frame key chain viewer



USB digital photo frame that stores pictures will be good for new dads. He can easily show off pictures of his kids when asked.

Jersey / cap / gloves / golf balls



Sports. Most men love sports. Be it golf, baseball, football, basketball, soccer or tennis. Buy him a jersey, baseball cap or golf balls of his favorite player. If he likes to swim, get him a pair of anti fog goggles. A sports bag will also do fine.

Watch



My suggestion would be a nice watch as a gift. It’s like jewlrey without being flashy and girly. Plus it’s thoughtful and practical. And then he gets to wear your present everyday!

Coffee mug



If he doesn’t get him a coffee mug. If he already has one, make him a coffee mug warmer.

Fountain pen



If doesn’t already, get him a fountain pen. Fountain pens are nice to write with because they produce a much more reliable flow of ink.

Wallet / Tie



It’s the most common guy gift. Wallet or tie. Fits well as a gift on any occasion.

A fridge full of his favorite drink



Imagine him waking up to a fridge full of beer. Or a cupboard full of packets of his favorite coffee flavor.

A favorite meal treat / a bag of his favourite chips



As they say, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Bring him out for a dinner. Go someplace that serves his favorite meal. You can also surprise him with a cupboard full of his favorite chips / nuts.

Wallpaper



Print out a poster and stick it on your wall. Have his picture in it, preferably looking cool with sunglasses on or something, and print it out into a big poster consisting of several A4 paper sizes. Or you can take a picture with the rest of the family holding up a ‘Happy Father’s Day!’ sign. Here’s instructions on how to do it.

Write a poem

The things you taught me I will always know.
How could I not? The roots have sunk so deep:
All lessons of the heart that I will keep
No matter who I am or where I go.
Kids learn from what their parents are, and so
You are my book of life, the thoughts I reap;
From you I learned the rules of right and wrong
Against which I at times had to rebel,
Though with regret I carry with me still.
How lucky I am to have been loved so well,
Even as I pushed against your will,
Relying on a father fair and strong.

Body massage



Bring him out on a 1 hour full body massage. Check out the prices and promotions beforehand. Make a booking preferably after lunchtime. Anyone would love being massaged. It feels good.