Recently, there was a week of Chinese New Year break and I have been busy catching up with my friends in where I stay. malaysia celebrates the Chinese Lunar New Year and it’s usually fun filled with cakes, cookies, beers and gambling. During one of the days where I was out with my ex-house mates in university, we talked about girls and realized that some of my friends needed a bit of guidance to get started. I’ve thought about it and decided to write about how to meet people. But first I’ll write down about how I met girls when I was in high school.
I’ve been to extra classes since I was in primary school. Young, isn’t it? Well, my parents wanted me to be well educated and thought that extra tuition classes would help. Little did they know, my motivation were the girls who went to the tuition classes as well. Being young and having just entered high school, hormones were jumping in me. So one day, while I was in class, I decided to write a note saying something simple like ‘Hi, I’m Chris, the guy in the black Nike. I just wanna tell you that your note has fallen to the floor’. I folded the paper, wrote the girl’s name and asked people in between to pass it to her. Oh, I got the name from the attendance sheet. =) Anyways, my friend joined in and I also included other girls’ names in the paper and so it become somewhat of a mass conversation between us. I dated one of them and we are all still in contact till today.
Scouts, Girl Guides and Gatherings
When I was in high school, I was an active scout. I went for gatherings and campfires done by other schools which include both scouts and girl guides. In gatherings, we would play games where the guys were supposed to go look for a partner to play. We would usually exchange contacts with our partners after the whole thing. After attending several gatherings for 4 years, I’ve made quite a lot of friends from all girl schools in my area and we’ve hung out during weekends and parties. They would usually bring their other girl friends and it was just awesome. During camps, we’ll get assigned girl guides and there’ll be like 5 guys and 5 girls in a group and we’ll be sticking together for the whole duration of the camp. We had about 2 months of preparation and in these 2 months we got to know each other better and got closer.
I graduated from high school 7 years ago. At this stage, I found other alternatives to meeting women. I don’t have classes nor campfires anymore so it’s different now. Below is a table listing the high and low requirements for each choice.
|Cost||Feeling of an active role||High choices||Specify what I want||Previous experience||Efficient time use|
|Social group / activities||medium||medium||medium||medium||low||medium|
|Set up by friends||high||medium||low||high||low||high|